I turned 50 yesterday.
My wife, kids and friends gave me a great party -a surprise with 50 of our best friends with a picnic at the Lake followed by an hour and half trip on a huge catamaran!
To be 50 means I get to be philosophical for a moment.
My first observation is that 50 is not nearly as old as it seemed it would be when I looked down the road in my 20's. I am not sure what it is supposed to feel like - but in truth it is not much different than how I have felt over the past couple of years.
If anything, I do feel a bit bolder in acknowledging what I know and what I do NOT know. In fact I am keenly aware that I do not know very much and that which I do know has been learned in the "university of life."
Some of the courses I have taken are:
Marriage 101, 201,& 301...my wife and I got married 12-15-79..and we are still together. We are the same in some ways and radically different in other ways. If given the opportunity for a do-over I would do it again..with some adjustments here and there. My wife has put up with a lot and helped me become a better person.
Parenting..out of our 29 years of marriage have come 3 wonderful children - who are now each in their own way 2 wonderful young men and 1 wonderful young woman. They have each turned out to be good people, who care about others, able to laugh at themselves as well as at a good joke, they can hold their own with the best of them. They have each experienced life's ups and downs and are wiser for it. We have had some serious health scares, some moments of extreme pain and disappointment as well as times of great joy and accomplishment. In addition to the 3 kids my wife "birthed" we now have a great addition to our family - a wonderful son-in-law. He is fun, caring, drives fast, and loves our daughter!
GRIEF...My wife and I have each lost a parent to health related diseases. My father died of a massive heart attack almost 15 years ago at the age of 59 - after never having a sign or symptom of heart disease!
My wife's mother died last year after a long challenging journey with Alzheimers.
We miss them both so much - your heart never feels the same after a parent dies.
We are so happy though that we have a healthy Grandma and papa still with us - they bring much to our lives.
Health stuff..We have had some damn scary moments with health issues. One day while having her hair cut at the mall my wife collapsed, was unconscious and taken via ambulamnce to the hospital. After many anxious days shw was diagnosed with an extremely rare migraine syndrome. She still gets migraines but has medicine that is usually helpful.
Five years ago I had a radical prostatectomy to remove my prostate which was full of stage 3 cancer! Go figure - where the hell did that come from?! I am so happy to be here today to talk about it.
that is all for tonight - more to follow tomorrow!
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Hi. I stumbled upon your blog via someone else's blog...kathryn Ransdell. I'm a member of St. Andrews.
I just wanted to let you know that I really like your blog. I wanted to post because I understand how getting comments related to your blog entry really motivates you to write more.
Congrats on your long marriage and overcoming the health concerns. That's always a scary thing.
My husband and I have been married for just 5 yrs now, and so far we've been through a deployment to Iraq, bedrest during pregnancy, an MS diagnosis, and now a possible airline lay-off. I hope this marriage gets easier! We could use a little break. Lol. : )
Keep writing!
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